Our Orgasmic Bodies

Installation #12 - Positive Sexuality

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Ejaculation and Orgasm are not the Same Thing!

EJACULATION and ORGASM are generally associated with each other, although they are distinct physiological processes; with ejaculation referring to the physical release of semen from the penis, and orgasm being the intense pleasurable sensation that typically accompanies sexual climax.

EJACULATION is a physical process that involves the contraction of muscles in the pelvis, expelling semen from the penis. It is a complex physiological process that is composed of two phases, emission and expulsion, and is influenced by intricate neurological and hormonal pathways.

Emission Phase begins with closure of bladder neck to prevent semen from entering the bladder. This is followed by the flow of secretions from the prostate and sperm from the vas deferens into the prostatic urethra. Subsequently, the seminal vesicle, Cowper’s glands, and periurethral glands contribute to complete the final ejaculatory fluid.

Expulsion follows emission as the process of ejaculation climaxes, and refers to the ejection of semen from the penis. The cum is propelled through the rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles, in addition to the bulbospongiosus and ischiocavernosus muscles.

It has been suggested that strengthening the pelvic muscles by performing Kegel exercises can enhance the pleasure associated with orgasm.

According to The Infographics Show, a recent study shows that most men have very little control over exactly when they ejaculate. That’s because the signal to ejaculate actually comes from the spinal ejaculatory generator - yes, that’s a real thing! And it is located in the spinal cord. This spinal region is responsible for coordinating the necessary functions, so while the brain can influence things - like thinking about something else to delay the event - it’s mostly the spine calling the shots. So they say…

As mentioned above, contraction of the bladder neck inhibits semen from entering the bladder, however dysfunction of this mechanism may allow retrograde ejaculation into the bladder. Also, the use of certain prostate medications may result in ejaculatory dysfunction, manifesting as reduced semen volume, retrograde ejaculation, or complete failure to ejaculate. Fortunately, this is usually harmless and reversible.

ORGASM is the transient sensation of intense pleasure and involuntary muscle contractions, creating an altered state of consciousness associated with reported physical changes. It is primarily a neurological event that occurs in the brain.

It is both possible to experience orgasm without ejaculation, and to have ejaculation without orgasm.

BLUE BALLS is a term used to ostensibly refer to epididymal hypertension, describing scrotal pain following heightened sexual arousal that does not result in ejaculation. There is continuing controversy surrounding this phenomenon, for which there is only scant valid scientific research.

Blue balls has purportedly be used as a means of sexual coercion toward a partner, when said partner declines to pursue a sexual encounter.  

Whether pain is physical. mythical, or psychic, it can be readily relieved by solo sexual and nonsexual remedies; and is never a valid reason to pursue nonconsensual sexual activity.

THE POWER OF THE MIND - It’s commonly known that the largest sex organ is our brain. The mind plays a crucial role in shaping our experiences of pleasure and intimacy. When it comes to sex, our thoughts, fantasies, and emotions can all impact our arousal and orgasm. They all play a part in creating the right conditions for sexual pleasure, and intimacy.

Excerpts From POSITIVE SEXUALITY FOR MEN - Jayson R. Diesel. This material may be protected by copyright.

“By getting to know Jayson through his experiences and insights, you’ll get to know yourself better as well. Through Jayson’s honesty and vulnerability, you’ll discover that exploring and ultimately “owning” your own sexuality, in the myriad ways this book lays them out (and in the myriad ways you yourself are uniquely sexual), isn’t as difficult or as scary as our often-uptight society wants you to think it is.” - Wynward H. Oliver, author of Homo-Work and The Gooner’s Handbook

Thank you reading these excerpts. The full journey, and all the personal stories are in the book. Many readers have also said the personal stories are the best parts. Order your copy of Positive Sexuality for Men.

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